Are you Beach Confident Ready?

(Blog courtesy of Debi Haden; www.debihaden.co.uk).

I’ve just returned from Greece, taking some quality ‘me’ time to recharge my batteries, it had been a while. As I sat round the pool on our first full day a thought came to mind about just how ridiculous the slogan ‘are you beach ready’ is, especially when it’s attached to a group of bronzed beauties who’ve been quite clearly air brushed to within an inch of their lives. No wonder when we even think about taking a summer holiday many of us lack confidence in how we look and feel, leading many of us to follow ridiculous crash diets that promise you a beach body in 6 weeks!.

The reality is as I looked round the pool that there was no ‘one size fits all’, there were people of all ages, shapes and sizes, with lumps and bumps just like me, all there for the same purpose to relax and enjoy their holiday.

After coaching for over 16 years I also know that actually we don’t always see ourselves as others see us, we don’t see ourselves with our eyes, but through our ‘mind’s eye’, our own thoughts projected through our eyes. Sometimes those considered the most physically beautiful in society can have many hang ups about their bodies.  Through low self-esteem and confidence issues they can believe themselves as ugly or not good enough, likewise I’m met some amazing people who are larger in life and yet ooze confidence and give off the most amazing aura that everyone wants to be around.

I’m not going to lie, when I arrived at the pool for the first time and began to strip off down to my swimwear I did initially go to that place in my head where I doubt myself and ask, ‘Will others judge me?’, but after a swift talking to I climbed on to my sunbed, book in hand and relaxed into my day, feeling gratitude for having such a wonderful opportunity to be in such a beautiful place.

We may not have the bodies we desire but can waste so much energy into putting ourselves down, now doing things because of how we look and feel about ourselves, worried about what others will think.  Do you really want to waste your precious energy on such negativity, would you not be better served by putting your energy into making the most of who you are right now?  Buy the gorgeous swim wear for who you are now, and if like me you feel you are worth it, get your nails painted, buy the matching beach bag, towel and everything else you believe you deserve.  Don’t wait ‘until’…it may never come, so live life NOW!

So, when you next see the slogan, ‘are you beach ready’, consider this instead..

Have you;

Packed your factor 30 sun care and got a great hat to wear?

Purchased some great comfortable swim wear?

Packed your flip flops?

Got some great books to read or downloaded on your kindle?

And most importantly…

Got your mindset ready to focus on having a fabulous holiday!

Emma Holmes: Things I wish I’d known sooner in business

(Blog courtesy of memememeansbusiness.com)

Whether it’s New Year’s Resolutions in January, a back to school style refresh in September or goal planning in December… Every minute, hour, day, week and month is the opportunity for a new start.  It’s filled with possibility.  It’s yours for the taking.

BUT, what seems to be happening is that you’re not taking it.

Am I right?

You are sat on it… Waiting to have your ducks in a row or your opportunities lined up or whatever it is you are telling yourself you ‘need’ before you get started.

You know you have so much more to give than you’re currently giving. To life, to the world, to yourself, to your family.  There’s so much inside you that you want to be, do, have and achieve and so many souls out there that could benefit from that thing you are sitting on.

You know that there’s a burning desire inside you to start a business or even to start taking that business seriously. You’ve mulled this one over for far too long now!

The decision to not make a decision is a decision to stay stuck.  It’s a decision to stay exactly where you are.

Do you want things to be different or not?

Now, don’t get me wrong.  Starting out or stepping up in your business isn’t a whimsical decision.  It’s not a “aaaahhhhh, ok then we’ll give it a bash” kinda choice, because you have to be all in. You have to harness your passion and drive and be prepared to learn new things.

So, is it time to make this decision?  Time to step up?  Time to get this shit started?

Yup? Awesome!

The first steps of growing a business can be easy to procrastinate over.  You can get overwhelmed at every turning and you can get stuck, stuck, stuck in the unimportant stuff like xx, xxx and xx.  You give masses of gravitas to the shit that doesn’t matter and not enough time to the stuff that does.

So, I’ve decided to share with you the things that I wish I’d known sooner in business;

You don’t have to have your business name, brand or logo sorted

This stuff can keep you super stuck.  Think about what your business stands for, look for longevity and for the sake of all things holy make a bloomin decision and just get started.  This stuff will change and evolve very quickly.  At the very beginning you probably won’t know exactly what the look and feel of your business should be, but this will develop over time and become clearer as you and your biz evolve.

If you have the budget then invest in a graphic designer, BUT if you don’t then simply get started and work it out along the way.   Don’t get embroiled in designs that you don’t love.   The minute you put something out there that you don’t like is the minute that you will put a block in your own way.

Work out what you’re all about ASAP

What lights you up?  What are you super passionate about?  What is your mission behind this business?  Go through these questions and brainstorm some ideas.  Your mission is so important to help you gain clarity and stop you getting side-tracked with stuff that ain’t important.

Figure out who are you here to serve

Now, you may or may not have come across the ideal client concept before.  I am not a fan of an ideal client avatar, instead I’d like you to focus on the commonality of your clients.  What are their problems?  What are their dreams?  What stories are they currently telling themselves?  Where are they getting in their own way?  How will your product or service change their world?

Get out of your own way

Go to that networking event, press publish on that social media page, write a blog, make that approach.  Where I come from there is a little saying “shy bairns (children) get nowt.”  If you don’t ask then you don’t get.  Likewise, if you don’t take action then you won’t get results.

Imperfect action is better than no action at all

Waiting for ‘perfect’ is a BIG mistake! Perfect never comes.  There’s always space for improvement.  ALSO, chances are that your version of perfect for yourself if a MUCH higher standard than anyone else’s expected standard.

There are no secrets to a successful biz

Don’t be fooled by the whole ‘I make a gazillion quid in 3.6 secs working 20 minutes a week’ hard sell. Don’t be drawn into the ‘one secret ingredient you are missing.’ ploy  This is merely marketing.  There are no secrets.  Yup, there are foundations that you are going to need to put in place.  Yes, you will be learning new things and absolutely you are going to need to embrace tech BUT none of this stuff isn’t learnable.  You don’t need access to any secret codes.

Stop looking at other people

I know that it is very tempting to view other people in your niche as ‘competition’” and to start to look on and compare yourself.  The first thing to know is that no-one does/will do what you do the way that you do it.  Secondly, if you add yourself into your business and give your business personality then no-one can be you.  You also don’t need to start to compare yourself and use phrases like ‘I’m behind.’  Now, what exactly is this thing that you profess to be behind?

Side step vanity early

Lots of people are desperately seeking a list of x,000 or a Facebook page with y,000 followers but the numbers are purely vanity.  I look to target growth but I’d rather smaller growth of the right people than large scale growth of people who didn’t give a damn.  Look to build your crowd with people who are aligned to your message; with people who you can truly serve and people who are the perfect match for you.  It’s much better having a smaller crowd who are into you than a larger crowd of ambivalent fans.

Know that there will be every emotion

When you first start out you are going to step directly onto a roller coaster ride.  There’ll be highs and there will be stomach left behind kinda lows.  You are going to learn loads about yourself and it’s ALL GOING TO BE WORTH IT.

Patience is key

You need to be consistent when you are growing your business and consistency doesn’t happen overnight.  When I have been talking to one of my friends/colleagues and Rockstars we have said it’s like chugging uphill.  Initially you feel the slog, it feels like it’s an uphill struggle, it can feel hard at times and you wonder if you will ever get your break, whether things will ever come together.

So often when I am coaching my Rockstars I can see the sweat and hear the swear words but I can also see the tipping point, I can see them approaching the top of the hill and being ready to accelerate down the other side, this is where things seem easier, where you begin to flow and it feels likes it’s much easier and more sustainable – it’s magic.

Still interested? Then just get started. You can do it!

Emma Holmes is CEO & Founder of Rebels & Rockstars – best described as a ‘hatchery’ for entrepreneurs with soul!

Emma helps heart-centred and soulful entrepreneurs to build big businesses without the icky, pushy tactics that come with most strategy and advice.

Painting Your Positive Picture

(Blog courtesy of Debi Haden; www.debihaden.co.uk).

We can send mixed messages out into the world about who we are and what we want, and this can mean we don’t get to create the life we really want for ourselves.

For clients who struggle with this aspect I get them to spend some time creating their ‘life map’, you may also hear it called treasure mapping or vision boarding.
Painting your positive picture can be a great way of focusing on what it is you really want and is the time to look back at your list you created about where you want to direct your energy.
What we look for is what we create for ourselves, so now is the time to send out the right messages to the universe and create the life you truly want for yourself…

Action
Take a large piece of card, use a scrapbook, notice board, or even use a page or two from your new development book.

Start by finding a picture of yourself that you like and stick this picture in the middle of your page.

Around your image start to build up your picture, who you are, what you like, what you want. You can write words, cut out pictures from magazines, this is your life map so be creative, do whatever you want!

For mine I put words that connect with my life; positive wellbeing, health, love, friendships etc., I then have pictures of things that I connect with like the sea, candlelight etc. I then have pictures of things I’d like to experience, like a picture of the northern lights, the Taj Mahal.

You could even separate the activity into two;
One called ‘this is me’, again with the picture and add words and pictures to represent who you are. This can be a useful exercise for people who have lost a sense of who they are…

Painting your positive picture.

For the second board, ‘your vision board’, again put your picture and then surround yourself with words and pictures of the life you want to create for yourself.

Take time to do this activity and add new things over time. It’s interesting as you do this activity as you can see your priorities change.

You can either keep your boards private if you do make sure you look at them often or put them up so you can see them every day!

This is a really positive exercise and worth taking the time out to do!

If you would like some help with creating your vision for 2018 then contact me to find out how we could work together to make your dreams a reality.